Accepting others as they are without judgment is the fastest way to achieve peace and harmony in your own life. When we unable to accept another for who they are, or we pass judgment on them or their behavior, all we are actually doing is rejecting ourselves and passing judgment on ourselves. How accepting we are of others is a very good indication of how accepting we are of ourselves. We see the world through our own biography, through our experiences and it is only possible to see qualities in another that we possess in ourselves. A child for example has no concept that someone might be lying until they learn how to lie themselves. It’s only once they have told a lie that they understand others may also be lying also. In effect they become a victim of their own crime.
The same is true with us. When we see a behavior we don’t like, understand that the behavior must be present in us somewhere for us to recognize it and be bothered by it. Instead of getting upset, try silently thanking that person for showing you that there is a part inside of you that you still need to work on.
Reminding yourself of a few other things can also help. Here are a few.
Their behavior is not conscious Most people are just doing as they have been taught to do. They are running the psychological programs and patterns handed down from family, school and society. The majority of people never stop to question why they do what that do, they just run the program mindlessly.
They are just trying to meet their own needs This is all we are all trying to do, everybody just goes about it a different way. It’s not about you at all, it’s all about them and getting their needs met. You are doing exactly the same thing, just in a different way.
Walk Away! If you don’t agree then just walk away! We do not have to have agreement to have harmony. Allow someone to do as they choose, just choose not to be a part of it.
Take a look at yourself The only way you can pass judgment is to be in possession of the correct idea or the correct standard. Open yourself up to the possibility that you might be wrong or there might be more than one way, life will get much easier for you.
